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Poly support group at the Fenway
What the group is about
(Description furnished by a group participant -- thanks!)
This support group is intended as a supportive environment to
talk about poly-related issues in your life, to ask questions,
or just to hear what other people have to say. In addition to
serving as an entry point into the poly community for those new
to poly or new to the Boston area, this also serves as a safe
meeting place for poly-identified or poly-curious people of all
levels of experience to come together and share their experiences
and discuss issues.
Location and directions
The support group happens on the fourth Monday of each month at
the Fenway Community Health Center. The Fenway is at 7 Haviland St in Boston, just off of Mass
Ave in the Fenway district (as the name implies). The building
is handicapped-accessible. There's a receptionist in case you
have questions, but you don't need to check in -- just come on
up. It's pretty close to the Mass Ave T station on the Orange
Line and the Hynes/ICA stop on the Green line (B, C, and D branches).
Directions by car and by public transit are on the Fenway's web site at
http://www.fenwayhealth.org/.
(If there's a Red Sox game that night, which you can check at
www.redsox.com, parking near Fenway Health is difficult and you might want to
consider taking the T or leaving extra time to find parking.)
The support group is in the third-floor lunchroom. Upon entering
Fenway Community Health Center at 7 Haviland Street, take the
stairs or the elevator to the 3rd floor. You will exit the
stairs/elevator into the 3rd floor waiting area. When standing
in the 3rd floor waiting area, orient yourself by facing the restroom
door with the wheelchair symbol on it. Go through the door directly
to your left as you face the restroom door. The door you will
walk through has a wooden frame and two glass panels. After going
through this door, walk down the hall to your right. The lunchroom
is on your left.
Time
The meeting proper starts at 7:00, but you can come as early as
6:30 to socialize before the discussion starts. It's also fine
to come a bit late if you can't be there at 7 exactly. The
discussion stops at 8:45 to give us time to rearrange the chairs
and leave the building by 9:00, when it closes. Sometimes people
go out for pizza or coffee afterwards.
Ground rules
I've transcribed these by hand from a paper copy, and they're
also still somewhat a work in progress as the group evolves, so
you shouldn't take this copy as being necessarily completely accurate.
The facilitator generally goes over ground rules at the
beginning of each meeting.
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Inclusivity
Everyone who agrees to follow the group guidelines is welcome,
regardless of where they fall on the poly-mono continuum, sexual
orientation, or gender identity.
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Lack of assumptions
We will do our best not to make assumptions about the characteristics
mentioned in rule number one (`Inclusivity').
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Politeness
Let everyone have a chance to speak. If you must give critical
feedback, do it in a non-confrontational way.
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Personal boundaries
Please make every effort to be aware of personal boundaries and
try to respect them. People may be in a vulnerable space, so
be cautious about touch, and remember that no oen needs to speak
if they do not feel comfortable.
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Stay focussed
Try not to wander too far off the general theme of polyamory.
Conversation about specific areas of interest (such as computers)
or gossip may make some people feel left out. Please save these
topics for social time before or after the meeting.
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Confidentiality
Everything said in this room is to be kept confidential. We
don't assume that everyone is out, or that it's okay, even within
the poly community, for people to know who attends these meetings.
If you want to talk about what happens here, please don't use
names or identifying characteristics.
Suggestions for participants
When people come to a support group with issues, there are two
kinds of responses: listening and sympathy
vs. trying to fix things. It's important to hear what the person
actually wants (one or the other of these or a mix) and sometimes
you may need to specifically ask how they'd like people to respond
or what they are looking for. Also, it's important to allow
quiet spaces, especially when somebody says something important
or difficult. Try to leave a few moments for a statement to
sink in for everybody before people jump in with responses.
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Last modified 2000.12.12 by
Jay Sekora
<js@aq.org>.