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Poly support group at the Fenway

What the group is about

(Description furnished by a group participant -- thanks!)
This support group is intended as a supportive environment to talk about poly-related issues in your life, to ask questions, or just to hear what other people have to say. In addition to serving as an entry point into the poly community for those new to poly or new to the Boston area, this also serves as a safe meeting place for poly-identified or poly-curious people of all levels of experience to come together and share their experiences and discuss issues.

Location and directions

The support group happens on the fourth Monday of each month at the Fenway Community Health Center. The Fenway is at 7 Haviland St in Boston, just off of Mass Ave in the Fenway district (as the name implies). The building is handicapped-accessible. There's a receptionist in case you have questions, but you don't need to check in -- just come on up. It's pretty close to the Mass Ave T station on the Orange Line and the Hynes/ICA stop on the Green line (B, C, and D branches). Directions by car and by public transit are on the Fenway's web site at http://www.fenwayhealth.org/.

(If there's a Red Sox game that night, which you can check at www.redsox.com, parking near Fenway Health is difficult and you might want to consider taking the T or leaving extra time to find parking.)

The support group is in the third-floor lunchroom. Upon entering Fenway Community Health Center at 7 Haviland Street, take the stairs or the elevator to the 3rd floor. You will exit the stairs/elevator into the 3rd floor waiting area. When standing in the 3rd floor waiting area, orient yourself by facing the restroom door with the wheelchair symbol on it. Go through the door directly to your left as you face the restroom door. The door you will walk through has a wooden frame and two glass panels. After going through this door, walk down the hall to your right. The lunchroom is on your left.

Time

The meeting proper starts at 7:00, but you can come as early as 6:30 to socialize before the discussion starts. It's also fine to come a bit late if you can't be there at 7 exactly. The discussion stops at 8:45 to give us time to rearrange the chairs and leave the building by 9:00, when it closes. Sometimes people go out for pizza or coffee afterwards.

Ground rules

I've transcribed these by hand from a paper copy, and they're also still somewhat a work in progress as the group evolves, so you shouldn't take this copy as being necessarily completely accurate. The facilitator generally goes over ground rules at the beginning of each meeting.

Suggestions for participants

When people come to a support group with issues, there are two kinds of responses: listening and sympathy vs. trying to fix things. It's important to hear what the person actually wants (one or the other of these or a mix) and sometimes you may need to specifically ask how they'd like people to respond or what they are looking for. Also, it's important to allow quiet spaces, especially when somebody says something important or difficult. Try to leave a few moments for a statement to sink in for everybody before people jump in with responses.
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